So today I thought I would link up with Molly again from The Move To America. Remember her? She became an expat at the beginning of October – you can read about what she thinks of the States and how she’s found life in America so far by clicking here.
Now as you know this post is all about setting out some goals for the week and this week I definitely have a few! First up is the dreaded wedding diet.
The dreaded scales…
Usually when you’re a newlywed you’re all relaxed and the tendency is that you pop on a few pounds. Not in this house. Oh, no, no, sadly not! This house does things differently and despite being newlyweds, as you all know, we have another wedding coming up in May and I have a brand new wedding dress to fit into! Eeeek! Now I don’t have too much to lose – I’d say at least half a stone (7 lbs for the American’s out there!) but ideally a stone. The thing is it’s a bit tough to diet when you live in America – the land of amazing food and convenience, meaning eating out is so easy! Everything is obviously covered in cheese and despite having the intentions of ordering a salad when we go out, the words burger or burrito always seem to end up coming out of my mouth when our order is taken! Argh!! As with every Monday morning the diet starts today only this time I really, really, really, really need to stick to it! How many times have I said that? But if I don’t fit into that dress I’ll be walking down the aisle naked and nobody wants to see that!!
There’s a bit of a wedding theme to this week’s aims, mainly because I appear to be a very relaxed bride and I fear because of this, the wedding will be here and things won’t be done! Organising the big day in Germany from America doesn’t help either!! We still have loads to do, especially before we head back to Europe for Christmas and New Year – that’s when we have some serious wedding planning to get done! Before we fly over we need to sort out things like what we want in the ceremony (we’re meeting with the priest) the menu and table decorations (we’re meeting with the venue) what flowers I want (we’re hoping to meet with a florist) how I want my hair (we’re meeting with a hairdresser) and lots of other little things that need to be sorted whilst we’re in Germany. Argh!! Making these decisions isn’t easy though – obviously I’m gonna ask my bridesmaids for help picking that all important hairstyle, the flowers and other things but they’re in the UK and I won’t see them until after the trip to Germany therefore its pictures, text messages and emails instead, not forgetting FaceTime and Skype calls! It just makes the whole process that little bit more difficult and time-consuming but we’ll get there and some of these things WILL be crossed off my list this week!
And finally there’s that ever-present job search! Yes people it is still ongoing! I didn’t get the job I interviewed for the other week and the applications are still heading off to their respective places! I just wish somebody would give me a job!! I’m getting cabin fever now – 10 months without working sounds like bliss right? Eventually it gets on your nerves though! There’s only so many trips to the gym and cleaning you can do in the week! There aren’t many shopping trips on the agenda – as much as I wish I could be a lady of leisure splashing the cash on some new clothes (and believe me I do!!) I don’t have the money to spend on the clothes without a job! So if anybody out there wants a writer/journalist/public relations/communications lady, I’m your woman and I’m ready and ready and waiting to get to work!!!
So usually my posts are about all the exciting things about being an expat and the exploring we’ve been up to in our new country, all of which is amazing!! Yep we can immerse ourselves in the American culture and check out the 4th of July parade and things like Braves, Hawks and Falcons games. (The last one we haven’t done yet but it’s on the list!) Yep we can explore the delights of Georgia and head to places like Stone Mountain, the Georgia Aquarium, the mountains and Lake Lanier that we would never have seen if we’d have stayed in the UK. Yep we can explore further afield in this amazing country and jump on a plane to places like Chicago, Vegas and New York and be there in a couple of hours or we can drive down the road for a few hours (well about 8!) and we get to the beautiful beaches of Florida and chow down on some of the most amazing American food ever! And I can’t complain when most days the weather is like this:
Now don’t get me wrong all of this is the best experience ever and for that I am so very grateful but sometimes it’s not all plain sailing!
First of all I’m 4,000 miles away from my family and friends and I miss them so much! Yeah we FaceTime as often as possible and it’s fab that we can see their faces and feel like we’re sitting at home and having a chat but it’s not the same as a big hug! Nothing beats a hug! And you can’t just pop round for a coffee or head out shopping together or go out for dinner and drinks – things I used to take for granted with them. It’s my mum’s birthday next weekend and the fact I can’t celebrate with her in person and take her out for dinner or something makes me sad. We’ll FaceTime instead but it’s just not the same. It does mean though that the time when I am back at home is that little bit more special!
Then there’s my best friend in the whole wide world who just gave birth to her first baby. When I moved over here she was 5 months pregnant and the baby was due on my birthday. Luckily I already had a trip back to the UK planned as I was celebrating the big 3-0 and the beautiful Lily was born exactly on time – well half an hour before her due date so I got to spend some time with both the bump and the new baby. Now though I’m watching her grow up through pictures and Skype calls – all of which are amazing but again they’re not the same as a big hug! Like I said nothing beats a hug! I wish we could bob out for a coffee together, go shopping and have lots of baby cuddles. I can’t wait to get home at Christmas to see them both again – Lily is already so much bigger than when I last saw her!
Oh and not forgetting the wedding planning! Yep we’re planning a wedding in Germany whilst living in the United States with 3 bridesmaids in the UK, a best man in Germany and parents in both countries! Believe me it’s tough! We have to work out where to get suits for the men from bearing in mind they’re in 3 different countries! We have to work out how we’re going to get things to the wedding like a cake, the all important dress (that I’ve bought in the States when my mum was here but I didn’t have my Aunty and bridesmaids with me – something that made the experience a little sad because I always thought they’d be with me when I made that big decision) and our guests who, again, are travelling from 3 different countries. I have to find someone to do my hair and make up for the big day and I probably won’t be able to have a trial run – something a lot of brides take for granted. I need to go bridesmaid dress shopping with my bridesmaids but I’m in the US and they’re in the UK! Thankfully we’re getting a lot of help from our friends and family who are checking out things like cars and DJs for us, my bridesmaids keep sending pictures of potential dresses to look at when I’m back and my mum is making our cake! But we still have so much to pack into our trip back to Europe for Christmas and New Year!!
Don’t get me wrong I’m not complaining at all and I don’t regret moving to the States but sometimes you just want your home comforts and especially your family and friends! They’ve been there for as long as I can remember and they always will be – I just definitely don’t get to see them as often as I’d like and I know that it’s technically my own fault and my choice but it’s still hard. Thankfully I have the German who keeps me smiling everyday and always manages to perk me up when I’m feeling a little down like the other day when he came home with a beautiful bunch of flowers for me!